When did it become a world where no one was allowed to have an opinion???

Well the latest news bulletin of Gary lineker, being removed from match of the day due to a tweet he made and apparently breaching his contract.

Are we allowed to have an opinion anymore or keep to ourselves? I thought we were always allowed freedom of speak. Of course when it comes to complaining about your job then that is a different matter.

My biggest issues is that all media outlets are the ones who make matters worse, they never actually report the truth, always make up extra parts to benefit there work, or quote information which was taken out of contents. I could go on and on. Will it make a difference no as they will print and say what they want anyway.

So people say you have to open your heart to love and it will get hurt at times, but you need to be able to be open to love again.

But if you’ve been hurt so badly from a previous relationship, how do u open up to someone new? And it can be from divorce, abuse, cheating and so on

Getting out there and meeting someone new is a big step and dating isn’t the same as it was. You would go out and meet someone but now you have online dating apps. What happened to just meeting someone and how can you believe the person on the app is actually the person they say they are! I know some people have found true love on them and can’t fault them for doing it. But having seen all these reports of what happen to people and cat fishing or being killed I prefer the old fashioned way, even knowing a guy as a friend could change into something.

Well I did meet someone and we really get on as friends and as much as I didn’t want to admit it, I started having feelings for this guy. Not that I was going to just tell him, we flirted and chatted about stuff.

But for me it opening up and admitting to liking him and didn’t want to have the feelings, if they weren’t felt the same from this guy.

How, what do we do with these feeling these days, how do we manage them, why is a hard with previous breakup, make things harder to admit new feelings for someone?

Why is it so scary to have feelings for a new person, all the why’s and what’s come up

There are so many different types of Love

Friends

We meet friends in all different ways from family members, going to school, our place of work, holidays, shopping but not all these friends we stay in touch with.  We only stay friends with people who we actually want to keep in our lives.  Some of our friends we actually class more as family and then some friends come into your life and don’t stay too long.  Friends know who we are, our likes, our faults, our past and everything 

People you meet in school, can become long life friends and not always speak but then when you meet up, it’s like old times.  

Relationship

Meeting someone – When meeting someone new, it’s always scary going on that 1^st date and also just chatting and getting to know each other, there are so many ways now to meeting a person.  It can be a friend what you know, to meeting someone on a night out, working with them, shopping, and online dating and so on.  In my opinion when we were younger was always easier we were more carefree, where as I get older I tend to analyses everything in my head and make it harder when it comes to going on a date.  

A lot of us as so familiar with technology that we do spend to more time chatting via text message and although it’s a good way to communicate and show yourself with flirting, humour but then sometimes it can be mix crossed and maybe we should go back to the old ways of getting to know each other and doing it face to face.  There are so many different dating statuses, from one night stands, casual, friends with benefits, full relationship and no one should have to explain what they want and why they want it, not one person is the same as another.  But it’s the fun of getting to know a person and finding out their personalities, dislikes/likes and even it doesn’t come to anything romantic, it can be a good friendship.  

I’m sorry but so sick of the media reporting on COVID and never getting the right facts. The media either overhype there reports or mislead people and just feed out wrong information to scare everyone. Then all the moaners have to comment. Everyone is allowed a opinion.

But all stop just because u don’t agree with someone else doesn’t mean u need to comment. People want to try and get back to normal. We have had lockdown restrictions eased so stop with the oh your just spreading the virus. Ffs we can’t stay home forever, people need to work and just be concerned with your own lives and let everyone lead their own lives too.

This is why I have stopped myself using any social media because u can’t do anything without someone having to have a pop or get into your business. I don’t post other than QUOTES which I LIKE, they aren’t connected to how I’m feeling or linked to my relationship status. Social media isn’t the be all and end all of my life!

So we are into months of lockdown and the easing of it all and seeing people on Facebook and the amount of people who are struggling with it and then also seeing the people who are embracing it is so different.

Seeing the people who are embracing, it’s lovely to watch them cooking, playing and just enjoying life which is lovely. Families are still scared with what is going on, kids are missing their school friends and not being able to go out and play or even seeing family. But it’s good that we have the technology to still keep in contact with them via Facebook, Skype, zoom and house party. Its also been hard seeing what struggles people are having with not being able to do they’re normal routines, seeing there friends, going out and just having the norm.

Will we ever go back to having a norm, or will the covid-19 be the way we live from now on. You see people following the rules and then there are people who done, we are always going to be a nation / world where not everyone will do as they are suppose too. But will we be able to move on from this or not!!!

So many groups on Facebook which is great and love how they are made for helping each other. I am a member of a few Nail Tech groups and travel groups.

But what I dont like is that people ask for advice, yet there is always someone who has to make a horrible comment or bring that person down. Why and if they don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all.

WHY!!!

What goes through people’s minds to respond and just be so rude.

People are just looking for reassurance, advice, help and guidance, I myself find that when people ask these things, that sometimes its stuff you wanted to ask or something you didn’t know yourself.

So again, people are misusing Social Media to be a bully and sit behind a laptop or computer and just be cruel. I know that a lot of admin to the groups will either warn these members or actually remove but again why in the 1st place.

So we move into another year and things need to change for the better. Yet we all say this, but how many actually do change. What is it down to, willpower, strength, positiveness, etc?

But we are the only ones which can do any of this, no one else can change it for you. They can help though.

They do say to start off small, as its the easiest way to change, but then sometimes you do have to make big changes for the better.

This could be moving away, leaving a loved one, changing job and so on, but if its to make your life better, then sometimes you have no choice but too.

Everything you do for a reason, you cant expect everyone to be happy with your choices, but in the end its all down to what makes you happy and that is all matters.

 

Watching her documentary was so liberating and hit home, how i feel about myself.   I started having issues with my body before i started dating relationships, i always worried about how I looked, I wasnt like other girls, slim and fancible.

Start of the reasons for hating myself:-

I did gymnastics from a young age, but then always remember one coach saying that she only wanted slim girls for competitions and that broke my heart and actually stopped me going to gym club, i just kept it up in high school.  I always kept fit and tried to look after myself but at high school age is when girls start to worry about how they look.

I got worse and hated myself and didnt have confidence in myself, then i met the ex and although he was reassure and said that he loved me, which he kept up but there weren’t comments of you look nice or anything.   My life has had its ups and downs, depression being a massive part which he never wanted to understand or support me, luckily had the love and support of my parents.  But body became more and more of an issue, as magazines, the internet and everywhere in general, you are reminded that the woman is suppose to be a perfect size 10 and fashion was changing and i found it easier to hide in jumpers. 

But how do we stop all these insecurities happening and like myself being happy with ourselves?

I am at a loss to how we stop this, as I don’t know myself how I am to feel about my own body and seeing the good in me.  But seeing from a famous person that we are all the same and even though we don’t always show what we are going through but it doesnt matter whether we are famous, policitical, state leader or just a normal person we all have them.